How To Deal With Not Getting An Award
The awards were all sitting in front of me. A big screen flashed accolades, written by readers of the paper and submitted anonymously, praising the work of the columnists sitting in the room with me. Nosotros all watched anxiously for comments about our work.
I'm not gonna lie; I counted the number of times my name appeared on the screen, even taking photos of each annotate with my telephone.
To say I'g competitive is an understatement. I've always strived to be the best at everything I do. Whether I succeed or not is beside the point; I have an inherent want to practice my best.
Who am I kidding? It'due south all about winning! I want an honor and all the recognition that comes with it, including bragging rights and the photo for social media.
Only today I was not a winner.
Give thanks goodness I learned a hard lesson when I was younger: not anybody gets a trophy but for participating.
When I was a kid, we learned the value of winning but more importantly we learned the value of losing, and losing with grace. It didn't affair if it was softball or dance or contend or any number of competitive activities. There could simply be 1 winner; mayhap a second and 3rd place. Just that was it. We didn't receive a trophy simply for participating, a practice common today.
We learned to accept defeat graciously, and we learned to separate the loss of the event from ourselves. Just because we did not receive an award for our hard work did not mean that we, personally, were losers. It simply meant that someone else had performed better than we did at that given moment.
I believe we became more than resilient. If we wanted to succeed next time, we evaluated the winning entry or the winning squad's strategy. We took notes. Nosotros practiced more than. We gear up a goal, adult a plan to achieve that goal, and went to work.
My biggest lesson in defeat and winning came in high schoolhouse. A life-long dancer, when drill squad tryouts came I thought it would be no problem to brand the team. I practiced and had the routine down pat. Slice of block, I thought.
What I didn't count on was the strong want of others to secure one of the limited spots on the squad. They may not have had the same years in the dance studio as I did, but they made up for it in decision.
Defeat hit me hard. I was devastated.
After twenty-four hours of solid tears, I held my head up, walked by the smiling girls who made the squad and met with the director to ask for constructive feedback for next years' tryouts.
One time I understood my areas for improvement, I developed a plan to master those skills by the next years' try-outs. I was adamant to win.
Was information technology hard to sit on the sidelines for a year? Yeah. Was information technology hard to do alone while waiting for my next gamble at redemption? Absolutely.
What will happen to kids today when they grow out of the "everyone gets a bays" phase and experience truthful defeat? Will they know how to separate the loss based on skills without thinking, "I'm a loser"? And will they have the decision to develop a program to win next fourth dimension?
My losing experience taught me no matter how practiced I am at something, there's always going to be someone better. I learned how to develop a program to go from point A to point B.
Second time out, I made the team. Got the award, the bragging rights and the photo.
As for today'southward events, I'm proud of my young man columnists who received recognition for their piece of work. It's an honour to work with such skilled writers.
And the graduation gift we all received was lovely; a leather writing journal to capture our thoughts, which I know I'll put to skilful use.
But I nonetheless desire to win.
Source: http://www.tamicannizzaro.com/and-the-award-goes-to-what-to-do-when-you-dont-win-at-work/
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